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lovebirds-web6They look a little sad and distant don’t they? I started out with just the single bird then decided to add another as the idea began to evolve. These “lovebirds” are like so many couples who grow apart over the years. They’ve lost interest in each other. The love, trust and unspoiled innocence are gradually replaced with mental images built-up over the years. I painted the musty yellow, cloudy sky because it kind of adds to the forlorn feeling of the painting. I added the Chinese character for love as a reminder of what has been lost and long forgotten in the relationship between this couple.

Most of us bring a load of expectations along with us when we enter a relationship. We want our partners to protect us from loneliness and meet our many perceived needs. We become dependent and controlling.  We forget that our self-centered concerns might at times be contrary to the wants and desires of the person we claim to love. Our “love” becomes conditional. The Buddhists call this “businessman’s love”.



Ravens are all over the place here in Northern California. I see dozens of them at the end of my street where there are a number of walnut trees. They fly up into the air with a walnut and repeatedly drop it on the street until the shell cracks open.

Even though I see them in groups, Ravens have a wise solitary aura about them. When I look at this painting with its isolated farmhouse at dusk it reminds me of my own sense of aloneness. It’s not an isolated loneliness that desires connection. The best way I could describe it would be a momentary surrender of the mind’s obsession with the future and personal security.

Sri Nisargadatta said, “you are the child of a barren woman. When someone asked him, “what am I going to do with my life”… he replied, “now you’re making plans for the child of a barren woman”.

August 2018
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